This read resonated with me - I can see you are pretty handy and it's great that you decided to give it a try instead of falling back into black and white thinking -

One of the things I've struggled with (am writing on it now) is how my culture touts the women have to be selfless thing - any act contrary to those laid down over the generations (black &white no gray) is considered an act of rebelliousness and often met with immediate censure -