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5 Reasons I Discovered Why a Man Falls Deeply in Love
Why dating is like job hunting: You have to do the work to find the perfect match
Love, Lies & Reality
I remember watching Bollywood movies where love is often depicted as idyllic — the handsome hero falling for the beautiful heroine drawn to her kohl-rimmed eyes or sweet smile. This was the complete opposite of what I’ve observed living in a city like Boston, where dating seems more like a job hunt.
You get matched, you feel a spark of hope, but nope — just a candle in the wind, or a total nightmare once you dig deeper. Or worse, you get ghosted — thanks to the emotionally immature, non-accountability crew out there. Dating feels like a hunt, whether in a pub or on a dating site — sometimes a jungle of hormones and other times beautifully crafted lies, intricate masks, and a take-it-or-leave-it attitude.
That’s another thing Bollywood didn’t mention. A boy meets a girl, they get married against all odds since love conquers all, and they live happily ever after. How domestic. There was no talk about compatibility — whether physical, values, social, intellectual, or even lifestyle — by that, I mean being financially on the same page.
Are these new-age fads or are Bollywood love stories just a lie? Does love really conquer all or do you figure out the challenges of marriage after defying parents and society to be with the one you love? It’s a huge risk in my opinion, because w when the waves of passion ebb, what’s left might be — well, nothing.
Obsession or love?
I recently read a gushing post of a man all agog about his new girlfriend. He listed a million reasons why he is madly in love with her. Most of them revolved around her being gorgeous, her zest for life and adventure, how she smells so good, how she practically floats, and what a natural she is in bed. He couldn’t believe how lucky he felt.
I find that cute. I think he’s in lust which can sometimes be mistaken for love. Why do I think that? Because he’s focused on the superficial — there’s not a single mention of an internal trait beyond physical attraction. While looks play a part, they’re not the foundation of long-term…
